DON'T HELP!!!  What strange advice.
 
Every lifeguard knows the best advice to give when attempting to rescue a drowning person-
 
            "Don't help, don't try to swim, just go limp,
            relax completely in my arms,
            and we will both make it safely to shore."    
 
A drowning person must exhaust themselves as quickly as possible.  Better yet, just go limp, relax completely, don’t fight their lifesaver, and let the expert do their job.  But, that goes against the natural, powerful instinct to do anything in order to survive.  And "doing anything in order to survive," causes the drowning person to unwitting fight against the very one who can save them.
 
What Activates True Grace?
 
And so it is with the mystery and miracle of New Covenant Grace.  The simple, most power truth about how New Covenant grace is activated within us can be found in Proverbs 3:34, James 4:6 and 1 Peter 5:5-
 
"God must oppose the proud, but He freely gives His transforming grace to the humble."
 
So, how does this proud/humble idea work?

Throughout Scripture, yeast is used to describe puffed up arrogance, human pride that’s void of power, hot air instead of true substance.  At Passover, Jewish families would search the house and get rid of all leaven, all yeast.  Jesus warned the disciples to “Beware of the leaven of the Pharisees” because their pride twisted their view of Scripture and made their teaching arrogant and powerless. (Matt 16:11-12)
 
Yeast: Powerful, Infecting and Life-Changing
 
But here Jesus uses the metaphor of how yeast affects dough in a completely new and positive way.  “Again he asked, "What shall I compare the kingdom of God to? 21 It is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into a large amount of flour until it worked all through the dough."  (Luke 13:20-21 NIV)
 
Here, Jesus uses yeast as a metaphor to describe how the power of His Kingdom spreads from one person to another, infecting and transforming them in the process.  When a little yeast is mixed into a large amount of dough, given enough time, the entire lump becomes affected, or “infected”, by the yeast.  When the message of His Kingdom is mixed into the human heart it has the power to change lives!

We have been asking you to submit questions for Mark to answer as part of the new AskMark section of our site, and a few of them we are featuring here in the blog. Here is a recent question I think many Christians struggle with.

YOUR QUESTION:

I wonder why Jesus spoke some "law oriented" verses in NT. For example, John 14:15 "If you love me, keep my commandments."  I assume the answer is Jesus was alive at that time or he was talking to his "law oriented" disciples or Paul was not there yet to start the Grace gospel. Can you help?   Jim from PA
 
MARK'S RESPONSE:
 
Thanks for helping other people who are wondering the same thing. 
 
Your question about why Jesus made so many statements that seem to not only be reinforcing the Law, but raising the bar far higher than Moses did, is very common.  In fact, it's one of the most asked questions in our pastors equipping seminars in nations around the world. 
 
I realize you were writing from memory, but it's important to note that what Jesus actually said was, "If you love me, you will keep my commandments."  I point this out because, as we will see later, this is actually a promise rather than a demand.  Think of it as a doctor saying, "If you will take your medicine, you will get well."  It's all about cause and effect.  So let's wade in.
 
Jesus Was Born Under the Law
 
First, we need to see that Jesus was deliberately "born under the Law."

I deeply desire to be a believer who "thinks, meditates, and rolls His Word over and over in my mind." So I was surprised when I first realized that nowhere in the New Testament is the Church referred to as God's Army...never. We are called the Body, family, His building, Church, Bride, etc. But never His army. The angels are called His army but not us. He is the Lord of hosts (angelic armies).

The battle that eternally matters has been won.  Jesus declared "It is finish" and embarrassed our adversary by complete defeat through His death and resurrection. 

The Eph 6 reference to armor talks about our "struggle" against spiritual powers but it concludes with the purpose of our armor "...so you can stand."  Stand, not fight. Each piece of armor refers to what we must believe about Him and what He has done for and in us. 

When Paul wrote that the "weapons of our warfare are not carnal" for the "pulling down strongholds", the context shows he is referring to wrong beliefs built in our minds by our adversary. 

Paul uses the metaphor of a soldier to show how committed we should be and how others should give so some can "go."   Reading Acts, we know he was regularly "run out of town" when riots broke out but he never referred to it as a failure or said, "The devil won." I find it very interesting that when Paul said satan "hindered, blocked our way," he didn't fight but just went on rejoicing!

1 Thessalonians 2:18-20 TNIV
[18] "For we wanted to come to you—certainly I, Paul, did, again and again—but Satan blocked our way."

Now imagine how we might react to that situation. It certainly "sounds" like the devil won. But the next verse shows that it simply didn't matter to Paul because he lived in rest believing that God would make it all work together for his good. Here's the next verse- 

[19] "For what is our hope, our joy, or the crown in which we will glory in the presence of our Lord Jesus when he comes? Is it not you? [20] Indeed, you are our glory and joy."

And why does this matter?  

I suggest that the more we see ourselves as God's army, the more we fall prey to a "works mentality."  We feel we must fight and then we view victory and failure through the lens of immediate circumstances. We begin to "lean to our own understanding" about the purpose for suffering and trials. 

We start viewing suffering as direct attacks of the enemy and somehow a failure on our part. But James and Peter said we should rejoice in suffering and trials, not fight anything. Then we starting looking at Old Testament verses to explain our view of warfare. War was real for them because they were setting up a literal nation and because Jesus had not yet "disarmed" all spiritual enemies. 

Col 2:15 should be our foundational belief. "And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross."

1 Peter 3:21-22 TNIV
[21] "… It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus Christ, [22] who has gone into heaven and is at God’s right hand —with angels, authorities and powers in submission to him."

We are called to a life (not a day) of Sabbath rest, not warfare.

I want to grow in my understanding of the Sabbath-Rest referred to in Heb 4:1- "Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of you be found to have fallen short of it."

Hebrews 4:9-10 TNIV
[9] "There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; [10] for those who enter God’s rest also rest from their own work, just as God did from his."

The war is in our minds where we must constantly be renewed so we believe the right things. 

Jesus gave us a promise about the life He wants to give us.

Matthew 11:28-30 TNIV
[28] “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. [29] Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [30] For my yoke is easy and my burden is light .”

Let's pursue joy in trials, peace in suffering and the eternal reward of enjoying His complete victory!  How? By fixing our eyes on Him, all He has done and all His Spirit of grace is doing inside of us right now!

"...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith." Heb 12:2

This is not intended to be criticism of anyone who has used this phrase. It is simply something to think about. 

Mark

There is a common theme that runs through a lot of teaching about holiness and sanctification.  This theme is based on faulty human logic and shows an important misunderstanding of the difference in the Old and New Covenants.  And the inevitable result is confidence-stealing condemnation.
 
I saw this logic recently in a very sincere social media post:
 
“If you put a drop of sewage in bottled water, would you still drink it?  No, of course not! In the same way, one drop of compromise contaminates the ENTIRE vessel of our lives.  So we must completely sanctify ourselves so He can fill us.”
 
Really?  Is this true?  Is this a New Covenant truth intended to “Set Us Free”? 
 
To arrive at the right conclusion, we must start at the right starting point.  But this kind of thinking, even though it is so prevalent in current teaching, is just plain wrong and very damaging.  It is the conclusion of faulty human logic that starts at the wrong starting point and inevitably takes us to the wrong place.
 
The logic used in the quote above begins with a question. 
 
“If you put one drop of sewage in a bottle of water, would you still drink it?”
 
The obvious answer is, “Ick! I wouldn’t drink something that has sewage in it!”  The logical conclusion is that God wouldn’t drink it either.  And if that bottle of water is supposed to be us, then we conclude God would never want to “drink us” if we have “even a drop of sewage in us”.  But this kind of thinking is wrong and leads us into condemnation because we are using human logic instead of thinking with a New Covenant mindset.
 
There is a huge hole in this logic.  We began the example thinking about water being used for drinking. 
 
But God doesn’t drink us!  We drink Him.  And as we do, His water cleanses us. 
 
Heb 10:22- “…let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.”  NIV
 
Eph 5:25-26- “…just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word…”  NIV
 
God does indeed pour the pure water of the Holy Spirit into our “dirty vessels”!  That’s how He cleanses us so we become more and more sanctified in our minds, our motivations and our behavior.  We do not contaminate God’s holiness with our unholiness.  His holiness cleanses our unholiness.   His holiness is medicinal and it heals our weaknesses.
 
God is not afraid that somehow we will infect Him with our weaknesses.    Our sin and weakness doesn’t infect Him; His grace infects us with His transforming power. 
 
Matt 13:33- "The kingdom of heaven is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into a large amount of flour until it worked all through the dough."    NIV
 
Just a little bit of yeast left in a loaf of dough will eventually “infect” the whole loaf.  That is the promise of the New Covenant; Him, in us, changing us from the inside out!  This is the right place to start.
 
New Covenant grace is the infection of transforming power
that spreads through human contact when we simply talk about Him.
 
2 Cor 3:18- “And all of us have had that veil removed so that we can be mirrors that brightly reflect the glory of the Lord. And as the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like him and reflect his glory even more.”   NLT
 
And just to set the record straight, there is at least a drop, a miniscule amount of sewage, in nearly all drinking water.  But our immune system usually counterattacks and neutralizes the impurities.  As God’s children, we have a spiritual immune system to fight off impurities; Christ in us, the hope of Glory!
 
Mark

​I just finished reading an article in Charisma magazine entitled, "What Audacious Prayers Can Do".   Just reading the title, I could allow myself to feel a bit condemned since I'm not even sure I know what "Audacious Prayer" is.  So I'm pretty sure I don't do much of it.
 
The author proceeded to cite stories from the Bible where God did amazing things in amazing ways, and then attempted to prove that He only did those amazing things because a human dared to pray an "audacious prayer". 
 
But when I read those same Bible stories, it seems to me that most of those people were just blessed to be included in the plan God had for them; and, though they all seemed to mess up several times along the way, they had just enough faith in His faithfulness to hang on until they reached the end of their story. 
 
Their faith was not in audaciously telling God what to do.  Their faith didn’t come from confessing when, where or how God would help them.  They seemed to have just barely enough faith to think that if they could hang on, somehow, somewhere, some way their God would be faithful and help them.  That doesn't seem to be all that "audacious".  It actually looks a lot more like me and my journey; or you and yours.
 
Abraham and Sarah had real struggles with their faith and actually laughed at God's promise, more than once.  Abraham lied out of fear, more than once.  They forced their servant girl to bear a child and kept running out of the "promised land" because they were afraid.  And yet, God saw something in their hearts that was not evident by looking at most of their actions; which were certainly not “audacious in faith”.  They had just enough faith in His faithfulness to hang on until they reached the end of their story.
 
And that's what it’s really all about- getting to the end of our story.  The main reason we love the stories in the Bible is because they are all over (Whew!).  Their battles are over; their victories have all been won.  Their fear, worry and anxiety are over and the good will of God has been done for them. 
 
We didn't have to stand with David in the face of Goliath, or with Daniel in the face of lions, or with Moses stranded between the Red Sea and the armies of Pharaoh.  We love these stories because they are over and we didn't have to go through them.  But we are able to look back on these stories and gain some understanding of when, where and how God helped them. 
 
But our stories are still being written.  Our battles are still being fought.  The when, where and how God is going to help us are still unknown to us.  But our faith is not built by telling God what to do or audaciously confessing into existence things we can't possibly know.  Our faith is built as we keep reminding ourselves of the 2 undeniable facts that we can know-
 
1) WHO is going to help us?  Our faithful Father-
 
Heb. 11:11- "...because he (Abraham) considered Him faithful who had made the promise." NIV
 
2) WHY will God help us?  Because He loves us more than any other created things.
 
Matt. 6:26- "...and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?" NIV
 
You don't have to be "audacious" in prayer to please God.  You don’t have to be able to “confess things into existence” to please God; we can’t do that, anyway.  You just need to keep renewing your mind with these two plain truths. Our God is forever faithful to us and He will help us because He loves us with an everlasting love and considers us to be more valuable than any other created thing!
 
And remember, we have a family secret; a secret that only works for the family of God- 
 
Rom. 8:28- "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him..." NIV
 
Mark

Read Part 1 of This Series Here

Prayer can sometimes seem very complicated. And if we are not careful in who we listen to, we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed about how to pray. But in Ephesians 3, the two most simple, and most powerful, aspects of prayer come clear.
 
Paul said we should pray for ourselves, and for each other, in at least these two simple ways:
 
1) That the Spirit will strengthen our "inner man" by making us more and more aware that Christ is indeed living in us and through us every moment of every day.
 
2) And that we would be rooted and grounded (unshakable) in the ever increasing knowledge of how wide, how long, how high and how deep His great love is for us, now; not some day when we become more "holy", but He loves us fully, right now!
 
"I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you trust in him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God's marvelous love.  And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God." Eph 3:17-19- NLT
 
 We are deeply and fully loved by God right now. And may we all grow together in the ever increasing knowledge of that great love and the good works it produces through us!

​Proverbs 22:6- “Train up a child in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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This proverb, so often taken out of context, has been heaping guilt and condemnation on generations of parents and I think it is time that it stops.  If the choices of grown children were dictated by how well their parents raised them, then God would be the worst father of all.  Just look at His kids and the choices we repeatedly make.

If parents are responsible for the bad choices their children make, why don’t we blame the heavenly Father for the choices His kids make?  Because we know that we have free will; and we know that we each make our own choices, good or bad, and we don’t blame God for our bad choices.  The Father is always seeking to teach and guide His children with wisdom, but He always gives them free choice.

From the tree placed right in the middle of the Garden of Eden, to every circumstance we are faced with in our lives, God does not seek to control our behavior by force of His power, but He seeks to teach and lead us by giving us choices.  He then empowers us to follow through on our righteous choices and reap the reward.  When we acknowledge our bad choices, He even redeems them.

The First Kids
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God is not interested in just controlling our behavior so that our actions are always righteous.  He wants us to learn how to look to Him for the guidance and empowerment to make good choices.

If God wanted to control Adam and Eve’s choice by force, all He had to do was put the tree of the knowledge of good and evil in a place they couldn’t reach.  That would have insured good behavior, but it would not have been free choice and nothing would have been learned.

Instead, He placed the tree in the middle of the garden, where they saw it everyday.  God wanted them and all their children to learn to look to Him for His wisdom in the choices they made.

So What About Human Parents?

So why is it any different with human parents?  Why do we make imperfect, extremely fallible human parents more responsible for the choices of their children than the heavenly Father is for His kids?  Ezekiel 18 says over and over- If the father chooses well but the son chooses poorly, the father is not to blame.  Conversely, if the father makes bad choices but the child makes good choices, the child bears no guilt for the father’s choice.

Read Ezk. 18 for yourself and plant its truth firmly in your heart.  God repeats it over and over, in several different ways; we are all responsible for our own choices.  Apparently, He feels strongly about this idea of personal responsibility.

The Law of Sowing and Reaping

Remember, the law of sowing and reaping is in the New Covenant. (Gal. 6)  Reaping bad results from making bad choices is not God’s angry judgment.  It is actually God’s love working for our good.  It is the simple result of our choices.  So don’t blame God.

When you tell your child, “Don’t touch the hot stove,” and they choose to touch it anyway, they get burned.  But they don’t look at you and scream, “Why did YOU burn me?”  Even a child understands that you didn’t do that to them.  They caused it by their choice.  And this is the most important thing we can teach our children.  Choices have consequences!

Genetics or Environment: A Matter of Choice

Does the example of our parents influence us?  Of course.  Does the environment we are raised in have an affect on us?  Absolutely.  But in the final analysis, each person is fully responsible for their choices.  And when we exercise our choice to make Jesus Christ the owner of our life, we have the promise that we are now a new creation in Him.  We have started a new genealogy based on our heritage through Christ, apart from our natural family.

We often see this when two children are raised in the same alcoholic family.  One may grow up to be an alcoholic, choosing to repeat the sins of their parents.  Yet, the other child sees the destruction alcohol has caused and chooses to never drink.  One may grow to be bitter and resentful of the failure of the parents; while the other chooses to have compassion and live in forgiveness.

We even see this in non-believers who make these choices by human will power.  How much more should it be true for those of us who are empowered by Christ’s life within us?

The Prodigal Son – Who Is To Blame?

Look at the story of the prodigal son.  This story tells us about a series of choices a young man made because he was given the right to choose for himself.  And he made some terrible choices that brought painful results.  However, he knew that when he was ready to make a new choice, the door to home, and his father’s heart, was always open.

How much blame did the father in this story deserve?  None.  Jesus gives no indication that he was a bad parent.  No doubt, the father heard the stories about his son’s foolish decisions.  But he never protected him from the consequences.  It was the consequences that brought the son to his senses.  Was it painful to watch?  I am sure it was.  But was it worth it?  Absolutely!

Remember, the elder son had all the outwardly righteous behavior, but his heart was filled with bitterness.  Forgiveness and restoration came to the younger son who learned through his consequences and came to fully embrace the father’s love.  We don’t know if the elder son, who’s outward behavior seemed good, ever came to enjoy the unconditional love of his father.

Be Good Parents…Unto The Lord

Should we seek to be the best parents we can be?  Certainly.  Not so much for the sake of the children, but to walk pleasing to the Lord for ourselves.  My wife and I have eleven divorces and remarriages between our four parents.  They did not set a good example.  But we made a different choice.  And the power of God’s grace living in and through us has enabled us to set a completely different example.

After over forty years of marriage, we have set a very different example, but we have been far, far from being perfect parents.  Nonetheless, it is always up to our children to decide the choices they will make for their own lives.

Let Them Fail

Be glad when your children make a bad choice because now they will have an opportunity to learn important life-long lessons.  Don’t be so quick to protect your children from the consequences of their poor choices.  Certainly, this must be age-appropriate, but let your children learn that choices have consequences.  Let them know you love them too much to insulate them from these valuable lessons.

Pray for your children.  Do not pray that God will force them to serve Him, because God will not answer in that way.  But pray that the goodness of God will overwhelm your children and that they will choose to respond by loving Him back!  “Do you not know that is the goodness of God that leads you to repentance?” (Rom. 2:4)

If you feel you have been a poor parent, then humble yourself, repent to your children and ask their forgiveness.  And, regardless of their response, be free of fear, shame and condemnation…because Jesus paid for that sin just as He paid for all other sins!
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I strongly recommend Danny Silk’s book, “Loving Our Kids on Purpose” as one of the very best resources on how to parent children through the power of true grace and truly represent the nature of the Father to our children.
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Mark